Six savvy steps to expand your Presence:
(Take one and home in on it. Then, the next. Low and slow is a tender act.)
1. Practice mindfulness.
Starting today, truly experience everything you do. The purpose here is twofold:
1. To embrace the present moment (the hub of presence.)
2. To quiet the automatic thoughts and feelings that arise ad nauseum.
Are you telling us not to think and feel?
No. I’m inviting you to simply observe your thoughts and feelings as the detached silent witness. In a mindful state, you see, instead of interpreting them as good or bad, right or wrong, you make Space – allowing your mental play-by-play to do its thing. No labels attached.
And this helps to…?
Be in the experience, but not of the experience.
Now we get to enjoy the fullness of every situation without getting lost in the projections and associations of the world and what may be playing out. It requires patience, compassion, a judgment-free ethos, and a helluva lot of redirection.
That Space between thoughts: it’s where our Light lives.
2. Meditate and radiate.
Don’t let the concept of meditation make you uncomfortable. It’s not as intimidating and demanding as it sounds.
You don’t need to sit in a special position, recite a specific mantra, inflict pain on yourself, shave your head, touch your thumb to your index finger while chanting OM, or renounce the world. You can meditate anytime, anywhere, and on your own terms. Truthfully, I encourage you to create an authentic practice.
That said, it is exactly that: a practice. If stillness is your kryptonite, you’ll have to meditate past the initial turbulence. If you (honestly) never get comfortable, consider a moving meditation. (If that’s your go-to, I still recommend a few silent minutes of breathing each day.)
The 411 on meditation…
It’s an exercise in getting still and connecting to your Source. It’s conscious breathing, ’tis all.
The best way to start is by making it a ritual. I like first thing in the morning upon waking, and last thing at night before retiring. A silent start and a silent sleep bookend most of my days. This way I enter and exit each day in quietude. To begin, try the following:
1. Place your hand on your heart and connect with its beat. Lup-dup, lup-dup, lup-dup.
2. Acknowledge it as your reason for being.
3. Thank it.
4. Follow your breath.
Thoughts will come and go, and well, it doesn’t matter. The mind will do its thing. Someday you’ll breathe beyond that. For now, inhale slowly through your nose and exhale through your mouth (or all nose as I prefer – this way you’re consciously breathing.) Feel the stillness and repeat as necessary. Continue as long as you deem fit (I recommend at least 5 minutes.)
And tada! You’ve just meditated. Congratulations. Real rocket science, I’m aware. And you didn’t have to give blood or join a cult – although I could recommend a few good ones… (that’s a joke.)
Just one more thing…
Take that radiance (and presence) into the world.
3. Charge it with LOVE.
Just like your iPhone needs a jolt through an electrical outlet, so too does our Presence. Make it habitual to plug in and charge intensely with the most powerful source in the world – L-O-V-E.
Wow, could you BE any more abstract?!
The more we charge our Presence (e.g. an afternoon walk, a good book, an extra meditation, a clean diet, a long massage, some verbal TLC, an epic guitar solo) with undivided and unconditional attention, the more we ARE it. In doing so, nothing can disrupt your state of being. Presence will be the gift that keeps on giving.
4. Create sincere affirmations.
Speaking of verbal TLC and redirection, a quick way to bring all your faculties into the RIGHT NOW is by affirming and declaring your Vision.
In search of a calm day at the office? Command it on the drive to work.
Looking for property for a new home? State your desire of some Youniversal support.
Want a speech or blind date to go smoothly? Recall a time of your utmost confidence.
What separates this from a traditional, read-it-off-the-sheet, pre-programmed decree is the upfront and honest nature backing it. You’re not declaring artificial proclamations that unconsciously you don’t believe. If you don’t mean it, don’t say it. And most definitely don’t COMMAND it. It’s counteractive to do so.
If you’re scared shitless, worried sick, or stressed beyond belief, let it be known first, and THEN ask for assistance by affirming what you do want. Like so:
Hey Youniverse, this presentation has me all sorts of nervous. Let me merge with it so that I may deliver the heart of my message: clearly and calmly.
What up Youniverse, the void I face through my social media cleanse has me crazy anxious. May the Space I create in its absence inspire and fulfill me in unimaginable ways.
Pretty simple stuff, really. Checklist:
1. Keep it real,
2. Keep it Light.
5. Pick some up at will call.
Like a ticket?
They sell Presence? Saweeeeeeeet! Do they take Venmo?
Holy millennial, but no and no.
What’s the catch?
They don’t sell Presence because it’s complimentary via the greatest gift of all – Free Will. And through the simple act of choice (saying YES to ourselves), we can access it anytime.
At the Free Will counter, there’s a permanent ticket with your name on it. Whether you pick it up is up to you.
6. Give presence/presents, get presence/presents.
I’ll make this real simple.
You want love? Give it.
You want abundance? Dish it.
You want truth? Live it.
You want joy? Feel it.
You want peace? Bring it.
You want presence? Give presence.
The more you give, the more you get. In my 32 years of living, I have yet to find a more sure-fire approach to spiritual health and happiness.
And that’s a wrap on Spiritual Key #2.
(As always, add your ingredients to the recipe.)